It's been awhile since I last posted and I am in the process of trying to figure out a blog schedule to where I can post on the same days each week and possibly have themed days as well, but while I'm in the middle of trying to figure all of that out I just wanted to share a little bit about some of the things that I've heard recently and a few misconceptions in my opinion. As one of the few single people in my group of friends (most of my current friends I met while I was a military spouse so they're married and most of them have children) sometimes it's funny to me some of the things I hear about being single. Obviously whether you're single or not, I'm sure most of you have heard the phrase "The grass is greener on the other side..." and I'm sure, in many cases, that's something we all think about. Many of my friends tell me that they like to live vicariously through me and are envious that I live alone and don't have the stress/struggles of family life. To some, that may be true, but I don't necessarily think how I live is any better than being married with children. Sure it's lonely living alone and sure I love having the days where I just need to be alone and not want to talk to anyone and I can do that, but it's not always how I wish it was. I am trying to enjoy each day as it comes and not stress about what I don't have/want. Just because you want something, doesn't always mean that you will get it; it is good to have dreams and an idea of the life that you want and are working towards, but I'm not going to waste any time stressing or worrying about whether I will get those or not. Then I'll miss what is happening right now and not appreciating it the way I should.
Misconception #1 that I hear a lot about single people is that they have more money than married/coupled people do because we don't have children, therefore I should be able to afford so many extravagant things. Hahaha!! This makes me laugh. If you really think about it, that's so not the case; in fact it's the exact opposite. No, I do not have children or a pet or any of those things, but what I do have is the sole responsibility for all things in my life...debt, bills/utilities, groceries, insurance and any of the entertainment expenses and emergencies that come up. I do not have anyone to help me split groceries or bills and am living on one income. I work two jobs to be able to afford all of those things and to have an emergency fund. I understand that many families live off one income as well, but I am talking in the case of both spouses working in this case.
I have also been told and heard that I should strive for a husband and children. I feel like the people that think those things are stuck back in the old days when that's what women did and some were expected to do, but not today! While I do believe that families are so important and I know many happy families (and some not so happy ones) I do not feel like I should "have" to have that or I'm not actually living my life just because society tells us that we should. Why can't I be happy being single or at the very least, married with no children? Yes, I love children and have always looked forward to being a mom, but the older I get, the less I feel like I need that to define my life on this planet and I will not be devastated if that does not happen. We all know that the future is not guaranteed and we do not know what the next day holds for us; all that we have is TODAY, right NOW. So until the opportunity presents itself, I am going to continue living my life from one day to the next and not worry about what is in the future for me.
I have been frustrated lately because I don't feel like there are enough hours in the day to do all of the things that I want, but I met someone yesterday and they said something to me that really made me think..."people will make time for things that are important to them." I'm sure most of you have heard this before, as have I, but with everything that's been on my mind lately, that seemed to really stick with me. There are so many things that I enjoy doing, but to do that all in one day is just not feasible; unless I didn't want to get any sleep, but let's face it, that's not happening. I have a slightly O.C.D. personality and am your typical Type A personality and I like to have things organized and have decided that I"m going to rely on my planner and actively making time for those things that I want to do. If I can plan when I will do those things for myself, then I can stop making the excuse that "there just aren't enough hours in the day." If someone want something then they will make every effort to get it, otherwise they'll make excuses. So no more excuses!!
Do any of you have thoughts or comments on this topic? I'd love to hear your thoughts or if you have heard similar things and are in the same boat as me.
Misconception #1 that I hear a lot about single people is that they have more money than married/coupled people do because we don't have children, therefore I should be able to afford so many extravagant things. Hahaha!! This makes me laugh. If you really think about it, that's so not the case; in fact it's the exact opposite. No, I do not have children or a pet or any of those things, but what I do have is the sole responsibility for all things in my life...debt, bills/utilities, groceries, insurance and any of the entertainment expenses and emergencies that come up. I do not have anyone to help me split groceries or bills and am living on one income. I work two jobs to be able to afford all of those things and to have an emergency fund. I understand that many families live off one income as well, but I am talking in the case of both spouses working in this case.
I have also been told and heard that I should strive for a husband and children. I feel like the people that think those things are stuck back in the old days when that's what women did and some were expected to do, but not today! While I do believe that families are so important and I know many happy families (and some not so happy ones) I do not feel like I should "have" to have that or I'm not actually living my life just because society tells us that we should. Why can't I be happy being single or at the very least, married with no children? Yes, I love children and have always looked forward to being a mom, but the older I get, the less I feel like I need that to define my life on this planet and I will not be devastated if that does not happen. We all know that the future is not guaranteed and we do not know what the next day holds for us; all that we have is TODAY, right NOW. So until the opportunity presents itself, I am going to continue living my life from one day to the next and not worry about what is in the future for me.
I have been frustrated lately because I don't feel like there are enough hours in the day to do all of the things that I want, but I met someone yesterday and they said something to me that really made me think..."people will make time for things that are important to them." I'm sure most of you have heard this before, as have I, but with everything that's been on my mind lately, that seemed to really stick with me. There are so many things that I enjoy doing, but to do that all in one day is just not feasible; unless I didn't want to get any sleep, but let's face it, that's not happening. I have a slightly O.C.D. personality and am your typical Type A personality and I like to have things organized and have decided that I"m going to rely on my planner and actively making time for those things that I want to do. If I can plan when I will do those things for myself, then I can stop making the excuse that "there just aren't enough hours in the day." If someone want something then they will make every effort to get it, otherwise they'll make excuses. So no more excuses!!
Do any of you have thoughts or comments on this topic? I'd love to hear your thoughts or if you have heard similar things and are in the same boat as me.